Confident Me

Self acception is one of the hardest battels we go through in life. Everyone has insecurities and there will always be a time where they bother you no matter how self accepting you are of yourself.

The worst thing to do to yourself is criticize yourself, I always tell people " Never put yourself down because people around you will think it's okay to do it as well". Self criticism is something that becomes a habit. If you do something wrong and hate yourself for it you will find that all your energy will be put towards hating yourself or making yourself feel bad about it for a long time which in turn will cause a domino effect and you will notice you hating yourself for every little thing you do wrong. Did you know, when you let yourself down you tend to stop trusting yourself and stop believing in yourself and that creates an obstacle in everyday life.

So the obvious question is how do I start accepting myself and become a more confident person? Well it's actually very easy, just start by not making big promises to yourself like promising yourself that you will loose 10kg's by the end of the month (when you know it's holidays and you going to be eating junk food and lazing around) or you promise yourself that you'll get 90% on the next math test when you got 60% last term (even though you studied a week before the test and go for tuition everyday), another thing to do is every morning look into the mirror and say this "I accept myself, I love myself, I forgive myself for the mistakes I've done and I will learn from them in future" and eventually you will start believing what you're saying, you'll start accepting yourself, being more confident and becoming truly happy with yourself. Remember don't wait for the world around you to give you permission to be yourself, just accept yourself and happiness will accept you.

"Practice accepting yourself just as you are. Then you will know what love is" - Paul Ferini

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Happy Holidays

It's the holidays!
Happy Holidays to all my readers, hope you had a lovely thanksgiving and I hope you have a very merry Christmas and a happy new year :-)

So because it's the holidays I thought I'd talk about how I generally get overwhelmed when being around too many people for a long period of time. Firstly no I don't hate people (well generally) and no I'm not a strange weird being who sits in dark places and reflects on life and the choices I've made (although that sounds like a pretty awesome idea) but lets get back to the actual topic...

When I'm around a lot of people for a long period of time I get overwhelmed and a lot of the time snappy and irritable with the people around me so what I do (or try my best to do) is stop what I'm doing and breath (my brother and sister make fun of me all the time about doing this but it helps sooo judge away), I count to 10 and walk away from everyone to my room because it's quiet and I can be alone. I would like to admit that yes I'm an introvert (A term introduced by the psychologist Carl Jung to describe a person whose motives and actions are directed inward. Introverts tend to be preoccupied with their own thoughts and feelings and minimize their contact with other people.) and need time to myself to sort of "recharge", I normally chill in my room, read a book, listen to music or go on social media, oh and I also write blogs now #de-stress&unwind.  After that long process (which takes a few hours or a whole day for me) I normally feel better and can socialize again but an alternative method would be to go to sleep and when you get up you'll feel refreshed (but not me because I'm not really a morning person so I feel refreshed only after an hour of waking up but that's a topic for another blog)

Well anyway I hope this post helps you be more cheerful this holiday season or just helps you feel better when you feel overwhelmed, on that note I'll leave you with this quote
"No family is perfect, we argue, we fight, we even stop talking to each other at times. But in the end, family is family. The love will always be there" - Unknown

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Once Upon A Time

And they lived happily ever after ... how often have we wished that could happen to us?
What is a "Happily Ever After"? And how can I get one?

What if I tell you that you haven't experienced just one Happily Ever After but many many more ...

If you think about a fairly tale it always starts off when things are difficult and the ending is happy because the hardship is over. How many hardships have you as an individual gone through? I'm sure there's a few right? So what rule says that the happily ever after comes at The End? What if you just don't know where The End is and where the new Once Upon A Time is?

When you finished school and wrote that last exam in Matric it was The End of your school life but a new beginning to another stage in life ...

What I'm trying to say is that Yes it is possible to have a Happily Ever After but YOU just need to know where to say The End in order to get it. Life is full of Happily Ever After its up to you to know which one you prefer and which one you feel should be part of a better ending to your story of Life.

Enjoy your story and remember we might be part of someone's chapter but not actually part of their story, we might be the mistake they need to learn from or the best mistake they ever made, no matter what happens let's smile through this crazy story called Life.

"Happily ever after is not a fairytale. It's a choice" - Fawn Weaver

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I'm Stronger

So I've been looking at this blank page for weeks now and I can't find nothing to talk/write about and today while scrolling through my twitter feed I seen a tweet about pain and the first thing that came to mind was a quote from the movie The Fault In Our Stars "The thing about pain is that it demands to be felt" John Green but it was recited by the character Augustus Waters (who is actually really amazing and all guys should be taking notes from him, #JustSaying), anyway the quote made me think, yes pain demands to be felt but once it's felt then what? What do you do with the pain?

I feel that once you are in pain or feeling pain we all tend to be negative about everything around us. Why don't we take the pain and use it to fuel ourself to do something to improve on yourself, to motivate yourself and achieve something we've always wanted?
I always remind myself that everything that happened or will happen to me, good or bad has and will continue to make me ME, make me SPECIAL and make me UNIQUE. I am fully aware of the pain that I have felt and I know for a fact that if I did not go through it I would have been a different person with a different personality and maybe I would not be writing this blog right now. If you are reading this and going through any type of pain remind yourself that it won't last forever and that it will get better, maybe not tomorrow but it will get better just believe in yourself and fight through it because you are worth it and your happiness is something you should always work towards.

So today's quote is
"Pain makes people change but it also makes them stronger" - Unknown

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I Love Me

I'm  sure we all have those days where we feel like we can take on the world but then we have those moments where we feel insignificant and of no use to any one or can't do anything.

We feel insecure and insignificant only because we believe we are and the only person to blame for that is ourselves. I always tell people not to put themselves down and do you know why I say that? Because if you put yourself down then other people will think it's okay to do that to you as well and that will just lead to you having a low self esteem.

My challenge for you you all is to start loving yourself, every time you look in the mirror give yourself a compliment, believe me if you do this regularly you will soon realise your self esteem growing and your personality opening, you'll start accepting yourself and that my fellow readers is really important because if you don't love, appreciate and accept yourself how do you expect anyone else to??

"If you want to soar in life, you must first learn to F.L.Y (First Love Yourself)" - Mark Sterling

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Positive Vibes

The world we live in has a lot of negativity around it, in the news, on social media and even in schools. What if every morning you as an individual wake up and decide to spread a little bit of happiness, we have millions people in the world and if every one of us got up with that thought imagine how much more positivity we could have.

At the end of my day I lay in bed and think about how much I've accomplished that day, and by accomplished I don't necessarily mean something big or major, it could be something small such as how many people I made smile, how many I made laugh, how many people did I help? Even if its one person it must have made some sort of a difference to their day. Think about it, it takes you just 2 seconds of your day (that you probably won't remember loosing in 5 years from now) to tell someone who may or may not be having a bad/not too good day "Hey you look good today" and it could mean so much to them, (maybe in 5 years from now they will remember it) it could even make their day or week.
So I think we should set a goal that everyday we will try our best to make a difference in someone's life be it in a major way or a minor one, let's spread some smiles, happiness and positivity.

"The true secret of happiness lies in taking a genuine interest in all the details of daily life" - William Mouis

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Handling Stuff

Hey so I know I haven't posted anything in a long time and you probably thought I disappeared for ever but things have just been really busy and hectic, between campus and exams and then second semester's hectic work load and not to forget my eventful and entertaining life I've just been really overwhelmed but I'm back!

So today's blog is a little about how I've been coping with everything and how I remain sane haha.

So when I'm overwhelmed I usually go into introvert mode and just stop talking to anyone, I normally read or listen to music and just detach myself from the world (it's an amazing feeling actually). When I feel better and I'm feeling a little less overwhelmed I tell myself that I am in charge of my feelings and I control how the rest of my day will go, I can either get into bed or crawl under a rock (which I must admit I do often) or I could get on with what I need to do and do it with a smile and positive attitude #positivity because I feel that's the best way to feel better. Yes I know, I know it's harder to do than say but trust me if you just give yourself that little push by the end of the day you'll feel a lot better then if you stayed in bed (and ate that packet of crisp and that slab of chocolate while watching repeats of pretty little liars). And on that note I'll leave you with this:

"Life does not get better by chance, it gets better by change"
- Jim Rohn

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A World In The Mirror

A world in the mirror

Have you ever looked into a mirror and thought about what is on the other side? Technically speaking a mirror is just a piece of glass covered with a reflective surface that reflects the image back to you.

This morning when I got dressed I looked into the mirror as usual and the image of myself looked back at me, copying me and doing exactly as I am,as I walked away something strange happened ... The person in the mirror flinched as I walked away, I walked back to the mirror to investigate but it seemed normal ... maybe the lack of sleep last night has got to my head ...

Finally home after  a long day out and about and as I get  into bed I realise that the corner of my bedroom mirror is cracked, how did that happen I wonder. Getting into bed I decide that I will get it repaired over the weekend. I fall into a deep sleep that evening and have a dream that seems so real it is almost impossible. In the dream I am  awoken by my sister but she seemed different, almost opposite of her usual self. My sister Aria is naturally shy and conservative but in this dream she is loud  and dressed in a track pants with a baggy top (so not her style of dressing), she wakes me up by shouting and then she jumps on the bed and gives me a shock waking me up and making my heart feel like it's beating out of my chest. She is panicking and insists that I come  with her immediately. She drags me out of bed and to the kitchen where my mum is making chocolate muffins that look  and smell so real I could almost taste it. When mum sees  me she is surprised and then a sudden look of sadness comes over her. Aria explains that things are changing and will not be the same anymore but I am so confused I don't understand, what won't be the same?? What are you talking about? I suddenly get up from my dream and feel my heart pounding out of my chest. .. what just happened? That felt too real to be a dream ... something is wrong  ... I look up at the mirror and the cracks has gotten worst.

The next day drags by as I anticipate the evening wondering if I would have that strange dream again. As I get into bed my mind wonders about the conversation I had with the mirror Aria and all the panic surrounded by the conversation. I don't realise when but I fall into a deep sleep and once again I'm "awaken"  by mirror Aria who doesn't seem that panicked then before but rather more sad or remorse, surprised by her expression I immediately ask her what the matter is, to my surprise she says nothing and starts walking out of the room, I follow her silently up a lot of stairs and walk through the large doors into a room with a large balcony, when I look out  of the balcony I see the amazing view of a lovely mountainside and the sea, as I'm staring at it I realise something isn't right, there is no colour, it's all black and white. I look at Aria with surprise and she finally speaks "it's the queen, she controls the colour of our land, her only daughter was murdered last week by the evil wizard and now she refuses to fix the colour of our land, she feels that if she is in the darkness we should as well,we don't blame her, it's really sad. We just wish she could be happy again"

I decided to come back tomorrow with the solution to her problem. I am determine I can fix it. Just as I make that promise I wake up and start thinking about how to fix her problem. On the way home I decided to stop at a cat shelter and I see the cutest, snow white kitten with sea blue eyes and a nose so pink it looks like a marshmallow. I decide I'm taking him with tonight to the mirror land. That evening g as I sit anxiously waiting to fall asleep so I can go to mirror land I can't stop thinking about how excited the queen will be. I wake up in mirror land and hold the kitten close to me, I don't want her to get scared. I walk with mirror Aria towards a huge castle that looks beautiful, I walk into the large hall and see her sitting in the thrown. After I am introduced to the queen by Aria I start my speech "my dearest condolences to you your highness, I'm sincerely sorry for your loss. I understand that you are in charge of the colour of your land which if in may say is rather spectacular a dream amazing. I understand you are heartbroken and currently in mourning but your land really does need colour. I have a preposition for you, would you like to meet a little friend of mine?" I take out the kitten and the look on her face is expressionless, I'm not sure if she likes the kitten or hates it, then she gets up and slowly walks towards me and the kitten. She takes the kitten from me and walks towards a large frame that I didn't notice before, it has a picture of a beautiful young girl with golden hair, pink lips and sea blue eyes. "This is my daughter, Emily she was murdered and when you brought me this kitten her eyes reminded me of her, thank you miss"

And then she turned around said something and colour was restored to the land. The queen named the kitten snow because of her white fur and she never felt lonely or depressed again.

THE END.

Inspired by the cartoon Coraline

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Super Power

Have you ever sat in a restaurant or a room full of people and thought to yourself "wow I wonder what they are thinking about" or "why did they just order that strange looking burger that seems to be dripping with calories?" Well I often find myself doing that, questioning why people do things.

So today's blog is about what super power I would have if I could have one and if you haven't guessed it as yet it's mind reading.
Something about reading a person's mind interests me, I'm not really sure why. If you think about it, reading a person's mind could be really awesome, you'd know if someone was guilty about something or if they really want something. It's also a strange thing because how would you turn it off? I mean if you've read or watched twilight you'd know the struggle Edward Cullen has and how he always hears voices all the time, 24/7 ... yikes

Anyway I'll leave you with this quote, "If you truly want to change your life, you must first be willing to change your mind. - Anonymous "

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Welcome

Hi Everyone

Welcome to my first ever blog and very first blog post. I'm super excited to be able to share some of my thoughts with you guys out there and get some feedback from you all.

Because this is the first time I am writing for the public I will appreciate your feedback and input on how to improve and make it more entertaining, also if you have any topic you'd like me to talk about please let me know.

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